Gifted people and self-actualization (II)
It is false the common belief that gifted people because of their greater capacity are predestinate to enjoy success and that they always get over any obstacle. In reality, there exist environmental and psychological causes that can impede maturation and the expression of talents. Poverty, race, lack of comprehension, or simply the absence of opportunities can hinder self-actualization. The same occurs with psychological factors such as lack of self-confidence, fear of failure and humiliation, and excessive subjugation to social rules.
A gifted person must face many adversities in everyday life: pressures to be like the average, and hostility and resentment from those that regard him as intellectually superior, are common. He must be able to adequately administrate the use of his faculties and collaborate with other people (relatives, chiefs, workmates, and neighbors) to correctly manage situations that can be controversial. Besides struggling with these external factors, he must also struggle with internal ones such as lack of assurance and perfectionism. Imposing to oneself excessive demands produces a feeling of inferiority that turns to be a further obstacle.
The gifted person that has not been identified as such in his childhood and has not been treated adequately by knowledgeable people must, before resolving the problems already discussed, deal with one even more important: to know what he is and what is his position in the world. The fact of not identifying himself as gifted can lead to sadness, disappointment, and depression–the subject will feel that he is inappropriate for some reason. For some ones this will lead to conclude that they must accept things as they are and they will not likely experiment further development.
While it can be asserted that there is a positive relation between intelligence and self-actualization, gifted people are not the only ones who can attain self-actualization. Every person may attain self-actualization by the full exploitation of his capabilities. A person who does not exceed conventional development may obtain professional success and have a happy and satisfied life.
People that grow beyond the conventional stage, are generally affected by disappointment and confusion before reaching higher levels. Inner, emotional growth does not happen spontaneously, but it is the result of an intense struggle by the individual. When depression and unhappiness are experienced, this is generally an indication of the subject’s effort to attain self-actualization, which, when it comes, is denoted by satisfaction and confidence. When the person has a clear sense of himself and of his objectives, it can be said that he has reached an advanced developmental stage and that he is an emotionally mature person.
Having professional success and inner growth are unrelated facts. All levels of emotional development can be found even among people that are not professionally prominent. So that advanced emotional growth can be attained more easily, it is extremely important that the person received adequate care during his first years. Environmental and family conditions strongly affect the sense that the individual has of his own value, his self-esteem, and his self-image. When one or both parents are hostile to the child, this may cause that the subject arrives to middle age with profound emotional conflicts. People that achieved high levels of emotional development had at least one person that took care of them.